20 November 2008


one afternoon a couple years ago, i stopped short on my walk back to my car after teaching.  as i had walked up the stairs, this had caught my eye:
i was so struck by these simple words that i stopped, dug out my camera, and snapped a picture.  i ran across the picture tonight and again the phrase's simple power struck me.

this is what i want of life--love.  i want to be loved.  i want to love.  romantically, yes, but in so many other ways, too.  it's such a simple desire, really.  but it's so elusive.  and looking at this image i think i understand part of what makes it elusive. because this phrase functions doubly--it's both an imperative and a request.  a statement of what others must do and an asking for what one needs.

i think it's the double nature of love that makes it so difficult.  being able to put down fear (even well-founded fear) and ask means making ourselves vulnerable to another person and simultaneously making that person vulnerable to us.  because to ask for love of another is to request, but it's also to require.  i believe it's worth it.  because i believe that love which not only requests but also requires is adequate to any challenge.


  1. I really like this thought on love. I had never thought of it like this, but it is so true! I do love you!!

  2. By the way, I have tried to comment on other posts and this is the first time I was able to make it work!!

  3. that's odd. probably the new "comment as: select profile" thing? since you have a blogger account, i think "google account" will work for you (google owns blogger). if not, try the "name/URL" option.

    and i know you love me. it's one of the things that i hold on to. all the time. i love you, too.