tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post2235574282132573859..comments2023-08-04T05:59:02.938-06:00Comments on laughtear: ameliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16516187741132836325noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post-2299165070083144342007-08-04T15:22:00.000-06:002007-08-04T15:22:00.000-06:00Kudos.Kudos.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post-85520689394404625092007-07-10T10:33:00.000-06:002007-07-10T10:33:00.000-06:00thanks, stewbert. i forget sometimes that "health...thanks, stewbert. i forget sometimes that "healthy" is the goal--whether it's body (mine is currently not very healthy, no matter what it looks like) or soul. goes back to what i was saying about goodness last week--that it has to come from inside, not be imposed from outside. beauty is very much the same way, whether beauty of body or beauty of soul.ameliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16516187741132836325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post-32922253137848085482007-07-10T10:25:00.000-06:002007-07-10T10:25:00.000-06:00thanks, steph. i think we all want our "own buff ...thanks, steph. i think we all want our "own buff hot guy" sometimes. i guess the point is not allowing that desire to become so constant that it blinds us and leaves us always shallow, rather than just momentarily.<BR/><BR/><BR/>and tasha, i agree with you. the fact is that the behavior you're talking about is another form of reducing someone to their body. where dismissing someone as unattractive because they're overweight is a negative and reassuring someone that at least they're skinny is a positive, both gloss over all kinds of complexities and nuances--the complexities and nuances that make us <I>human</I>. it's something that drives me batty. <BR/><BR/>human beings made judgments based on appearances. because it's easy. it doesn't involve much work. you don't have to actually <I>know</I> a person to assess them based on appearance. obviously people who don't know us well are going to do this. the fact that they do can be hurtful, but at least their lack of emotional engagement with us offers them some excuse. it's when someone who is close does it that it hurts so much.ameliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16516187741132836325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post-84627396522530919892007-07-10T10:24:00.000-06:002007-07-10T10:24:00.000-06:00Wow. I loved this post too. I'm a fat girl -- I'v...Wow. I loved this post too. I'm a fat girl -- I've dated all sorts of different body types, but am now married to a HAWT man who is also amazingly sweet to me most of the time and loves my kid like his own. There are times I've caught myself wondering if he'd rather I be someone else or have someone else's body since he's so durn good looking. It's not like I'm ugly (I fancy myself pretty, in fact, just fat). I really needed to read this, if just to remind myself he loves me for me ... and wants me healthy, which should be my goal. <BR/><BR/>Thanks for the linkage Steph, and for everyone's comments. Awesome post Amelia!!!stewberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14940744366129679442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post-74443712491969004962007-07-10T10:08:00.000-06:002007-07-10T10:08:00.000-06:00you are purely awesome.... I got here through a fr...you are purely awesome.... I got here through a friend of a friend.... goodness how I needed to read it!<BR/><BR/>which amuses me... because I'm a fat girl.. and I still find myself shallow enough to put off the other "grossly fat" guys and want my own buff hot guy sometimes.<BR/><BR/>but still... kudos!steph khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08883710710914822853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post-60074206110462852362007-07-09T01:04:00.000-06:002007-07-09T01:04:00.000-06:00Perhaps you could share your thoughts on the mispe...Perhaps you could share your thoughts on the misperceptions of being "skinny". <BR/><BR/>Somedays....I think the world doesn't allow me to struggle... or be frustrated... or depressed or...or...or... because I'm "skinny" and that MUST mean I'm perfect? Happy? Have it together?? Therefore, *people* tend to "blow off" my struggles because "at least I'm skinny!!!" well, lot a good being skinny does when you are in need.......so fat, skinny take your pick....we all get to work through *STUFF*! <BR/><BR/>Sorry.....too late for any real thinking (for me that is :)<BR/>tashnatashahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05531516118690372871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post-16896621559624485892007-07-08T15:28:00.000-06:002007-07-08T15:28:00.000-06:00thanks, chloe. and welcome. hope you'll stop by ...thanks, chloe. and welcome. hope you'll stop by again sometime. and good luck with the grad school applications. that process can really be a beast.ameliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16516187741132836325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post-31965023575460238222007-07-08T11:33:00.000-06:002007-07-08T11:33:00.000-06:00I'm a new comer...but I absolutely loved this post...I'm a new comer...but I absolutely loved this post. It is so well written and so insightful.chloehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12591718941491845826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post-37145896565384796962007-07-07T14:00:00.000-06:002007-07-07T14:00:00.000-06:00amelia, I've read this several times and I just wa...amelia, I've read this several times and I just want to let you know what an awesome post it is. <BR/><BR/>zeeny, hooray for you. I love water sports and when I got pregnant and my body started changing I swore to myself I would never let the way I looked keep me from wearing a bathing suit and enjoying the things I loved!! Now, after 8 kids I don't look so hot in a bathing suit, but I still put one on and do my water sports. You're right, we shouldn't let life pass us by, no matter what our weight.Bored in Vernalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14016611721544251941noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post-21662410886055838802007-07-07T12:31:00.000-06:002007-07-07T12:31:00.000-06:00Amy, this is awesome. Way to go.Amy, this is awesome. Way to go.Carolinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00895275783472155916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post-5178936386619375422007-07-06T19:00:00.000-06:002007-07-06T19:00:00.000-06:00THIS fat 5 wants to praise your name to the heaven...THIS fat 5 wants to praise your name to the heavens for writing these things. Thank heavens for slender 10's who also score a 10 when it comes to ranking generosity of spirit...George Eliothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01008079952092381262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post-17531254307005309612007-07-06T10:32:00.000-06:002007-07-06T10:32:00.000-06:00i haven't been by for a while - but i think i've m...i haven't been by for a while - but i think i've missed your wise and articulate writing. this was a very well done post! thanks for sharing it (especially at 2 in the morning)!alisonwonderlandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08652716231337658058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post-29728452162440656282007-07-04T14:23:00.000-06:002007-07-04T14:23:00.000-06:00exactly. someone doesn't look like society deems ...exactly. someone doesn't look like society deems happy, fulfilled people look so they therefore don't deserve to be happy and fulfilled? or they can't expect those of us who <I>do</I> look like happy people are supposed to look to be involved in their happiness? that's just ridiculous.ameliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16516187741132836325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3965218.post-63317568906401502472007-07-04T14:14:00.000-06:002007-07-04T14:14:00.000-06:00I love you! Yes, I take credit for you being sens...I love you! Yes, I take credit for you being sensitive to chubby people, or fat people. I sometimes still find myself not allowing myself to live a full life because I'm "fat". I had this thought yesterday that, yes, I am chubby, maybe even fat. Yes, I don't love the way I look at all times but does that mean I have to wait and live my life when I lose some weight? NO NO NO! I guess it is also a matter of allowing myself the happiness and not letting my weight get in the way. I know I have some emotional issues, and turn to food when lonely or depressed. I know I need to deal with these issues and yet I can't wait to get on with my life when I lose the weight. While I'm waiting my life is passing me by. I need to live the life I want no matter the number on the scale!zeenyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06849193047151776317noreply@blogger.com